Doom, gloom and ?

I just found out that my friend's mother-in-law died yesterday. This woman was a true saint. Actually before she was married she was a nun for a while (at least that was what I was told... I don't think it was just a figure of speech). It's so sad for many reasons, she just successfully finished a long nasty battle with cancer, she has grandkids ranging in age from 1 to 15 years old, and her husband and youngest son are very dependent on her.

I know her so well not for being my friend's mother-in-law, (I haven't seen her in 3 years), but because I dated one of her sons on and off for about 4 years, (and we haven't talked since the moment we broke up, I guess well over 7 years ago). 

I will go to the funeral, I just hope that me being there will not further upset my long ago ex. It'll be hard enough for him (and all of them), but I'm sure he knows that I'm still friends with his sister-in-law, and his mom was important to me during our relationship. 7 years seems like a lifetime ago.... ugh, very sad.